Lameez Benjamin Registered/Accredited/Member -Emotional Freedom Technique Practitioner -Neuro Linguistic Programme Practitioner -Self-Esteem Coach -Good Morning – Good Evening Qigong Teacher -Community Art Facilitator
My story: In 2001, I finally dared to leave an abusive marriage and walk away from material wealth not worried about how I was going to survive. All I wanted was to find inner peace after years of walking on eggshells. I knew to leave was not going to be easy, but what I did not see coming was my husband kidnapping my kids out of the country. My son was 8 years old at the time and my daughter 4 years. I kept waiting, hoping, and trusting that he would eventually do the right thing and return them as if they went on a holiday. It turned into an ugly court battle, lots of tears, pain, and sorrow. I lost and my husband got custody of the kids. I was only allowed visitation rights. I remembered how I was shaking and crying when I heard the final court decision. It was one of the most painful, shocking experiences. On my visitation rights, I would continue my court case doing everything in my power to bring the kids back home. There was a time when I felt the pain too overwhelming like a slow death seeing the kids and then after visitation leaving them behind.
I was prepared to leave everything behind back home and seek employment near them but my plans got derailed. One day I was sitting on the bus deciding that I was not going to come back to see the kids because it was too aching. It was three years and nothing seemed to have changed. I hoped that one day when the kids were matured that they would find their way to me. I’ll never forget the sight of seeing my son wandering around the bus station looking lost and confused. What was he doing alone? I immediately jump up ran out of the bus to get him. Events changed after that day. I was back at court days later and granted custody of my son.
The court decided to grant custody of the daughter to the father and son to the mother. Leaving my daughter was another wound that kept on bleeding. Before I learned about the law of attraction I was not aware that I was implementing the power of it to attract my daughter back home. I have used all my money and been without a job for six years. During this time I was stuck in pain longing for a daughter and scared that she would hate me and no longer remember her mom. I felt this heavy guilt thinking that my daughter would think that I abandoned her and don't love her anymore. She would think of why I took my son and not her. A miracle happened. My daughter came home at the age of 10 years just as I have envisioned her in my thoughts. It was hard for all of us to adapt to each other.
Firstly I had to leave my comfort zone and seek employment. It was a struggle to accept that I needed to go out and work for a month to month paycheck. I also felt embarrassed to use the D-word Divorce, embarrassed because I was working for someone else and no longer had my own business of retail shops and wholesale warehouses where we employed so many staff.
I continued to study and learn, I needed to prove myself and show society that I could do this on my own. It hurt very badly when people made comments about what is she going to do now? How is she going to cope without the business and money? She should have stayed all these remarks I had to hear from others. My internal screaming “and what about my feelings” did you forget about the abuse as a single parent and mother, I kept myself so busy ignoring my pain. I over proof myself to my kids that I was a good mother. It was always someone's needs and not mine. Losing my kids was not the only situation that I had to deal with. During this time I was armed robbed tired up by robbers and a gun held to my head. I had so many breaks in at home, even my dirt bin got stolen so many times. I have gone to the shop and a man was shot in front of me. I survived all of these traumas and struggles. I often wondered when was all the suffering going to end. Give me a break, give me a Kit Kat and give me a free weekend away. I use to joke. I did get my Kit Kat chocolate and a free weekend away. It was a long hard road back for me. I embarked on the healing path when life became unbearable for me. So unbearable that it felt like I wanted to stand on a mountain and jump out of my skin to free myself.
It was only when I discovered EFT Tapping (Emotional Freedom Technique) 10 years ago that my life started changing. Since then I never looked back and have learned so much and continue to learn and grow. As my career evolved so did I changed from the inside out. It’s only when you internalize what you’ve learned and put it into action that your life starts to change. A businesswoman working as an HR Consultant for corporate companies, Financial Officer, Pastel Accounting, Microsoft trainer not knowing that I would leave all behind to follow my passion. As I began to change my life, I also began to share what I’d learned, and eventually, I found myself teaching. I wanted everyone to feel what I felt, happiness, and grateful for all the abundance flowing into my life.
I’m a lifelong learner. I am passionate about people and seeing them reach their full potential. Whenever I look at someone I see them through the eyes of love and what I want for me I want for them. Growing, achieving their dreams, and Being Happy. I can honestly tell you that no matter where you at, know that everything can change. Your conditions can change just like the speed of light.
You have to make a "Choice" and set an “Intention”. Everything else will shift to accommodate your transformation.
EFT Tapping is such a powerful self-help method based on research showing that emotional trauma contributes greatly to illness.Clinical trials have shown that EFT tapping can rapidly reduce the emotional effect of memories and incidents that trigger emotional distress. Once the distress is reduced or removed, the body can often heal more quickly. EFT is effective for fears, anxiety, depression, physical or emotional pain, and other problems. Our past emotional trauma can scar and stop us from living and believing in ourselves. Inner Child work is so important, it can put an end to our internal sufferings. Healing is a process you have to DO consistently for it to work! You cannot work on your mind-set then forget about your body. I also discovered that working on the mind-set was not the only priority that so many coaches teach. Our emotions are also stuck in the body, fascia, and runs down the nervous system. Movement is of utmost importance, a moving body is a grooving brain.
My kids are young adults now, both educated and skilled. Our family is built on a foundation of Love and Respect. I believe so much in my training because this is years of research that I perfected over time. But the secret ingredient is commitment and a willingness to change. No one else can do it for you, only YOU can do it. I work with my clients to bring awareness to their pain and release emotions that are deeply rooted. I created a step by step progress that allows total freedom of the SELF and create a sustainable income. These methods I use every day, it’s a part of my lifestyle. My struggles are in the past and yes I have challenges, however I can handle with ease. I am present in my body and out of my head, I have more empowering thoughts. I know that I am valuable, worthy, and deserving of what is already mine. I am growing expanding and having so much FUN! It is possible for everyone. Opportunities are everywhere.